6 Things I Really Want to Tell You, But I Am Really Just Telling Myself

Life lessons

Hi again, you guys! Long time, no hear. I know, I know. Before I go any further, can I tell you all how much I appreciate anyone who’s been stopping by the blog despite it’s near dormant status over the last 3-4 months or so.

I mean, seriously, my daily pageview numbers wouldn’t blow the pants off anyone, but I am amazed at how consistent it has remained despite the fact that there has been absolutely ZERO new content over the last few months. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you, for stopping by!

Anyway, I’ve had this post on my mind for a few weeks actually. It all started off from some journaling that I was doing, mostly some serious “things to remember” talk to myself (“life lessons”, really!), and it kinda just expanded from there. So much so, that I wanted to come out of my unintended blogging hiatus and share all of these words with you.

1| You don’t have to buy every new thing.

A) Because you don’t need it.

B) Also, your bank balance will thank you for it.

No seriously, do you need every single thing from the new Zara drop, or all the latest eyeshadow palettes? Most of us are fortunate enough to have (wayyyyyyyyyyyy) more than what we need, and we need to stop using the excuse of a new trip, a big event, or some such like to constantly be buying new things.

2| Control isn’t a bad word.

Oh no, I do not mean control as in being controlling of someone else, but more about self-control. In an age where every third Pinterest post implores you to “do more of what makes your soul happy”, it’s easy to use that as a carte blanche to indulge, and then indulge some more.

I wish I could eat chocolate cake and pasta every day, and I wish I had a new blouse or dress every time I went out with friends, but you and I both know that’s just silly/insane.

And all this control isn’t necessarily about consumption habits, but also for our behaviours and thinking. I am learning this the hard way that I can be way too indulgent with my thinking and certain emotions. Haven’t mastered the trick yet, but God knows I could benefit from some self-control.

3| The quality of your life isn’t determined by how Instagrammable it is.

Your house, your party, your outfit, your closet, your body, your morning routine (for god’s sake!) – no matter what state they are in, you’re still doing life okay even if you feel that they don’t fit in with the “Instagram aesthetic”.

External validation can be a powerful thing, we all know that. But at the end of the day, what brings you peace at night isn’t going to be the thousands of likes your latest post garnered.

A life which feels good from the inside is what I am aiming for (and admittedly, struggling very badly with!!!), irrespective of how that translates onto a 2X2″ square image.

4| It’s okay if you haven’t travelled to 30 countries by the time you’re 30.

Travel as a hobby and as a business has exploded in the age of social media. Maybe social media has just made travel more visible and seemingly more accessible. I mean, till before Facebook, we were not constantly being bombarded by images of friends going to fancy new countries, and Instagram has taken it many notches higher with the prevalence of people who seem to travel the world for a living.

I am all for travel, trust me! It’s one of my favourite things to do, and I’d love to travel even more, but I do wish for us to travel more for the sake of travel, and not for either keeping up with the Joneses or for checking off some viral Pinterest post about “30 Things You HAVE to do Before You Turn 30”!

5| All your nights out/ events don’t have to be larger than life to be “epic”.

Because there is still a certain kind of beauty in the quiet evenings spent sharing a bottle of wine with friends. Because even if your wedding decor isn’t the very epitome of chic the Pinterest-able vibe, you’re still (hopefully) getting married to the love of your life, and that in itself is epic beyond words.

6| You really need to hear what Brené Brown has to say about relationships and love and shame and vulnerability and courage.

I am late to the Brené-Brown-is-awesome train, but if you haven’t read/heard her, I think you’re missing out on some amazing life lessons.

Inspired by her Netflix special, I have just started reading her book “The Gifts of Imperfection” and barely some 50 pages in, two things have already stood out to me: a) check your motivation, and b) there is a difference between practising and professing love.

Chew on that for a bit, but really, if you’re looking to make your life a teeny tiny bit better, or struggling with relationships and/or yourself in general, get some Brené Brown into your life for some tough (but much needed) lessons.

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So well, it’s been fun coming back to this space and sharing all these words with you. Tell me, what are some recent realisations that you’ve had and/or life lessons that you’d like to share with others?

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